How does one succeed in life?
Last Updated: 22.06.2025 09:15
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Why do I want to be caught sucking dick by my wife?
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Ask yourself:
Why would a spouse cheat if the marriage is good?
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
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Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
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PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
Do not set goals—set systems.
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
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Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
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Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
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Living to your full potential is a goal.
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
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Procrastinates a lot.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
That's it for today.
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
What I need from you?
Making more friends is a goal.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Does not procrastinate.
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).